New Year’s resolutions have a reputation for not succeeding because they tend to be draped by the shiny, silvery veil of the holidays, the allure of a new beginning and being able to start over, and the advertisements and media everywhere selling you the idea that the new year must mean that you have to create a whole new you. However, when the glamour fades, all that’s left is a lot of products that promised you success, and guilt for not reaching your goals (that you probably posted on social media).
Instead of going through this cycle again and again, why not make some accomplishable New Year’s Non-Resolutions that will get you to a healthy mental headspace, and end up making you feel like a success instead of a failure. Here are some ways to get to that place:
Lose Weight vs. Get a Healthy Grip on Your Body
Now is the time of year when gyms open up for free or discounted enrollment, when stores put exercise equipment and clothes on sale and on the cover of their ads, and when you will see an influx of people to your regular Wednesday night Zumba class. Diet and exercise are the go-to methods for weight loss, but we may want to think about the priority here. I am all about dropping the pounds if that is what you need to do in order to make yourself feel healthy and happy, but remember that your body is a machine and needs a lot of care besides food and movement. Do you know what exercises typically work best for you? Do you know which foods make you feel good and which foods make you feel gross? Have you been screened for hormone or vitamin deficiencies? Instead of getting stressed about pounds, get information about your body and how you can nurture it.
Organize Your Whole House vs. Live Peacefully
It is so tempting to throw out EVERYTHING as the new year starts. New year, clean space, purge it all! However, organization and a comfortable home aren’t always about getting rid of stuff and moving the rest around. The key here is to figure out what you have that makes you feel good. If you are going to clean out your closet, grab that shirt you haven’t worn in a while and think about your first reaction to it. Does it make you roll your eyes? Do you feel bad for hanging on to it but feel like you could probably wear it someday? Is it a hard “no” and you are wondering why you actually bought it? If it is anything other than pure joy at the thought of wearing it, it’s time to let it go. Anything that causes you stress, second thoughts, or worry should not be in your home; we have enough stuff like that going on in real life to have to worry about that in our cabinets and shelves. Organization and lifestyle guru Marie Kondo recommends holding the object, thanking it for serving its purpose and bringing you joy while you had it, and then saying goodbye. There is no room in your life or time in your schedule for things that don’t contribute to your peace and joy.
Stop Spending Money vs. Spend Money Purposefully
I can put a padlock on my wallet, but soon enough I am going to need gas, milk, and I will definitely want a pedicure. Setting a resolution to stop spending money is incredibly unlikely and, let’s face it, super impractical. We all have to spend money at some point. So instead, setting a goal to spend purposefully can be more helpful. Do you have something coming up that needs funding like a trip or a furniture purchase? Did you see a gorgeous sweater you know your mom will love for her birthday? Make those financial goals, write them down, and add them to the budget. Create an Excel worksheet with pre-filled cells for what you know you spend on gas, groceries, and other expenses you know you will have, so that you know how much is leftover every month.
Find a Relationship vs. Be in a Healthy Relationship with Yourself
Nothing, I repeat NOTHING, is more satisfying that knowing that you are okay by yourself, you love yourself enough to be alone if you need or want to be, and that if a person comes along, and you make a great duo, then that is just icing on the cake.
Many people that set resolutions vow to be more adventurous, do more things outdoors, and take more risks. If that is you, then go on with your bad self! If you would like to try some adventures, then go for it! But if you are setting that resolution because you feel like you should, then put that away and think about what YOU actually want to do. If zip-lining through Costa Rica or skydiving in Hawaii does not sound like your cup of tea, then own that, grab your bathing suit and book, and snag a beach chair while everybody else throws themselves out of a plane. Be comfortable in your own skin and with your own decisions.
All of that being said, there are some resolutions that are absolutely worth setting AND keeping. Here they are in no particular order:
- Buy a home
- Quit smoking
- Learn a new skill
- Stop drinking soda
You will never regret doing these things, and the rewards far outweigh any difficulty or work you may have to go through to reach the finish line!
Whatever you put on your plate for this coming year, we hope it is full of blessings and joys beyond what you could have imagined! Happy 2019!